I am ready to scream!

by Suzzannah
(Georgia)

Hi Fellow Moms:

May 10th 2010, we adopted a 4 year old with a multitude of physical, emotional and developmental problems. Memorial Day weekend we spent having heart surgery. Thank God he is better. The surgery resulted in complete recovery. Then we were sent for developmental diagnoses. I swear it is the "Disorder of the Day." He has fine and gross motor delays of 2 years, visual and verbal processing disorders, and dyslexia. For the first 3 years of his life he was neglected and abused. Ultimately, the state took him away and gave custody to his maternal grandmother. She contacted an adoption attorney in our area who, I knew and he came to live with us. We also have a 6 year old son who had some fine and gross motor delays, but is entering second grade. Both boys are extremely bright, but I am overwhelmed homeschooling and going to therapy. I am physically and emotionally exhausted. I am afraid if I take a break from OT/PT, D will lose all the progress he has made. Presently, it takes me 40 minutes each way to go to therapy and then our sessions are 1 hour. The pediatrician want him to go to karate too. He feels D needs to do something "normal". Where is the balance of taking care of the boys and taking care of myself. As a mom, I know balance isn't always possible, but can we slow down a bit?

Thanks,
Suzz